Thursday, 24 April 2014

Invent And Innovate Yourself

By Amy Twain

My friend is a speaker and she told me that so many years ago, when she was speaking for a group, the director started to ask her how she came about speaking on the topics or issues she did and how did she particularly define that. My friend replied that she had not really looked at something in particular.

My friend added that she was speaking and discussing in those topics that really moved her, intellectually, spiritually and emotionally and most especially on some topics of discussion which she believed will greatly help people. Then the director suddenly brought up the thought. But why not invent or re-invent yourself, every so often? my speaker friend was about to make a note, that she was doing fine as it pertains to monetary compensation and everything, but when the director in the audience all of a sudden brought up that idea to invent and re-inventing oneself, my friend also reflected.

The very word invent carries with it, the purpose or reason of a designed and desired result. That is where one should start, and then work backwards. My friend realized that though she had taken enough planning and thought on which direction or way she wanted her life and course to go, she actually never approached it from the angle of inventing herself, nor with the plan or intention of inventing.

The power of this approach is that how you live your life and more significantly, the kind of person you want or like to be is not left to fate, destiny, whims, current happenings or even circumstances. There are several people that do not live with end-purpose-intent/motive. They simply let their life, just freely move around or bounce from random choosing, however the boss might react, whatever will take place, to whatever feels good at that moment.

Okay, say for example you take an individual's manner of dressing. Several on one side of society just take sit as it sees, accepts what's given or simply remains and stays loyal to the way they dressed when they were in high school or college. While the other side especially the current pop culture and fashion, just lets whoever is the big name on Fashion Network determine the style and length of their pants, how they look or what type of design, color, cut etc.

So rather than letting all those other outside influences dictate your choices and designs, why not just invent the person you want to be in your clothes? It is incredible how much power, control and direction it can give you. Then try working in that desired direction. Think and decide if the clothing is appropriate for your work, your values, your family and friends.

Or much more importantly, the family you want to have in the future and the values you want to have. The person you want to be and the job you want to do. Always invent with the style and design of who you want to be and the life you always dream to have.

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The author of this article, Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently published a new home study course on how to boost your Self Esteem. Click here to get more info about her Quick-Action Plan for A More Confident You.

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Tuesday, 22 April 2014

How to Manage Change in 8 Steps

By Isabella Brusati

Usually I don’t review books as there is a lot of noise out there when it comes to change management. If you check on Amazon there are +80,000 books on the topic!

However, in this sea of information there are a few books that do really deserve attention. In particular “Leading Change” by John Kotter. It is not a brand new book (in all honesty there is very little under the sun that has to be discovered when it comes to change), having been published in 1996. It is not perfect either. Therefore, why is it still a great book of reference for all executives and change practitioner? Because it focuses on a clear action plan and devises a clear path to follow.

When dealing with change management what I notice is that those that are in charge and those that are the recipients of change initiatives feel a little bit lost. “Where do I start?”, ” What should I do next?”


The strength of Kotter’s book is providing 8 steps that are clearly laid out. Not theory or fluff: a solid path that talks about challenges and solutions. Kotter does not promise success, unlike many others. The book starts with the top 8 reasons why change management initiatives fail and follows up with the drivers of change (you would notice that the elements that drove change nearly 20 years ago are basically the same that drive change today, notwithstanding the fanfare we are now used to that change is faster than ever), those being:

1. technological change

2. international economic integration

3. maturation of markets in developed countries

4. fall of communist regime (you may say this is not applicable, but … look at the effects change of political directions in China are having in today’s business world)

These elements flow in the globalisation of markets and competition that lead to more opportunities but, at the same time, to more hazard. The output is more large change in organisations.


Readers may object that these elements are same old same old but, let’s take into consideration that the book was published in 1996. Organisations have had nearly 20 years to focus on solutions. Yet, we are still facing the same issues and many are still struggling using tools to find solutions. What can we do?


The strength of this book is in the outline of the 8-stage process of creating major change. This is a clear path, a step-by-step process that can guide you and senior managers leading change successfully. It covers all the issues that characterise change management initiatives, such as lack of leadership, lack of strategy and vision, sketchy communication, ingoring change consolidation phase.

What is this recipe then?

The eight steps are very easy (on paper), but require serious commitment and focus of the senior coalition to succeed:

1. establishing a sense of urgency

2. creating the guiding coalition

3. developing a vision and strategy

4. communicating the change vision

5. empowering broad-based action

6. generating short term wins

7. consolidating gains and producing more change

8. anchoring new approaches in the culture.

Each step is explained by Kotter in a straightforward way, without references to theories or waffling. Of course it is not a miraculous cure: it is a strong starting point for everyone that wants to understand how change really works and getting solid tools to succeed.

Whether you are a newbie to change or an experience professional this book is a must have in
your business library.

About the Author: Isabella Brusati Consulting: addressing people and project dimensions of change management.

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Saturday, 19 April 2014

Correct Choice Is The Key Of Success

By Linda Ding

There are only two matters which you can not select during your lifetime. One is your parents and your children, the other is survival or death.

What we have now, which contain love, career, right, wealth, poverty, hunger, etc, are all originated from the original selections we made. As a result, choice is the most important part in a person's life. You will have the corresponding results in terms of what choices you will make.

When you have to confront making some choices, do keep in mind to think them over seriously, carefully and cautiously. Otherwise, you may get opposite answers.

A lot of people are confused about a question. They do things fairly seriously and enthusiastically, why can't they get a nice outcome?They never consider if their selections are right in the first place.

In fact, choice is more significant than endeavour if you want to succeed. However, choice is something fairly terrible and difficult as well. We will have a feeling of hesitation, frustration, tension, and so on when we have to make some big decisions. You should be brave enough to conquer those negative minds and grasp the opportunities in time. Since you won't get another chance like that if you miss it.

There are a majority of people who do things only follow the general trend and don't have their own creative opinions. The outcome of this is that they can't make any achievement through their life.

A scientist named John in France once made an experiment called "experiment of caterpillar". He put some caterpillars on the side of a planet and made them stand in a round. Then, he put some food six meters away from the flowerpot. To his surprise, all of those caterpillars just walked round and round toward the side of the flowerpot day and night without rest. But none of them chose to walked toward the outside of the queue so that it could eat the food.

From this small story, I want to tell you that some of you are just like those caterpillars. You are busy with something day and night. And when others ask you what are you engaged in, you just say that you don't know what you are occupied with.

Choices really matter when you want to succeed.As a result,if you are eager to achieve your goals and gain wealth and success, just stay away from stereotype and be creative and imaginative enough. Do something different and newfangled.Taking some adventures may assist you discover some unexpected harvests.

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Thursday, 17 April 2014

7 Steps to Overcoming Hurtful Situations

By Clint Beley

When you become constantly exposed to certain emotional, mental or physical trauma, your body tends to respond in a way that protects itself from further experiencing the ordeal. It shuns away from any possible contact that can open itself to the probability of experiencing the distress once again. The mind is a powerful thing, it governs the activities in our body - even ones that we are not aware of; such as emotional detachment.

Understanding Emotional Detachment: Why You Need It

Nobody chooses to be emotionally detached from anything or anyone, not unless it would mean freeing themselves from more pain and hurt. Sometimes, you just really need to save yourself from that which pains and traumatizes you, and sometimes you just simply need to learn how to be emotionally detached.

Here are 7 Steps to Be Emotionally Detached

1. Teach your body to relax.

While some activities your body does are involuntary, some are not. When you become stressed out because of certain factors, your bodily functions are similarly affected; your muscles become tense, your blood pressure rises and so does your heart rate. There is however a way to avoid or at least keep the increasing vitals to a minimum.. In attempting to be emotionally detached, you wouldn't want to make the decision while your bodily functions are crazily racing, therefore, the first step is to teach your body to relax and take deep breaths

2. Control what runs across your mind.

Do not allow any disturbing thought or experience  traumatize you. Block out any image or voice that rekindles the strain. While this is a lot easier said than done, it is not impossible to do. You need to learn how to transform a negative picture into a positive one as this can control your attitude and behavior towards things. So instead of obsessing about the distressful event or person, train your mind to divert the thought and think about other stuff such as the beautiful places you yourself have been to or want to go to, or even count imaginary sheep before going to bed - think about anything that can take your mind away from the stressful mind-set.

3. Be physically active.

The more you become a couch potato or a hermit in your room the more you are giving a chance for the negative feelings and thoughts to visit you. Doing physical activities will help you get your mind off things that are disturbing you; furthermore, you get to save yourself from possibly revisiting distracting thoughts, events and feelings. So get up and move those muscles, think about the good paybacks you can get from working off those muscles.

4. Do not be afraid to cry and feel the pain.

Denying that you have a cross to bear would only aggravate the situation to the nth power. When you learn to accept the sad fact that you are hurt, lonely and traumatized, you give a way out for yourself. It is healthy to allow yourself to feel the pain as this can be a key to revive you and get you back from the state of being emotionally detached to not. However, while you allow yourself to swim in the sea of pain and loneliness refuse to get drowned; feel the hurt and cry, but force yourself to get back up.

5. Keep a journal or diary.

Often times, it could be difficult to open up to someone, even to your closest friends and loved ones, so you keep the feelings all to yourself; this is not healthy and all these feelings can pile and eat you up. Write them down. This can help you ventilate your thoughts and feel a little better. There is a magic to keeping a journal of your thoughts.With time you get to appreciate how far you have grown and become stronger just by going through your journal.

6. Find things that you enjoy doing alone.

Being emotionally detached could be difficult in that you need to do things on your own. To keep things better, list the things that you enjoy doing alone and try to pursue them one by one. Trekking? Surfing? Shopping? Make a bucket list and get busy getting it done. Doing the things you love especially out-door activities free your mind of the build up stress and gives you the needed strength to face the negative situation you are faced with.

7. Practice makes perfect.

If you think you are still unable to detach yourself emotionally from the things that hurt you, try and try again until you succeed. Eventually, your mind will learn to let go of things that are not good and store those that are helpful to you. One good way to free your mind and detached from negative situation is through meditation.

About the Author: A personal development coach and peak performance instructor. Write at Emotional Detachment

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