By Willie Horton
If your life isn't all that you want it to be or if you're unhappy with yourself - what you think is going on has nothing to do with reality! Decades of research prove that the normal subconscious mind quite literally makes up your reality for you. This personal version of reality has absolutely nothing to do with the real thing. It is concocted from a a mish-mash of "resident thoughts" in your subconscious mind - what some people call their "baggage", which we mainly learned through the experiences that stuck in our mind from our formative years - generally speaking, before we reached in or around twelve years of age.
So, what about real reality? What about living the life that you actually want to live? If you actually do want to live the life the kind of exciting, happy and successful life, you're going to have to stop paying attention to the crap in your head that, as things stand, has given you the very real impression that your life is more like some black fantasy! Instead, you're going to have to start paying attention to real reality. You're going to have to come to your senses - and I mean that literally.
Your body's five senses are your only interface with the "outside" world. Every sound you hear - whether it's a rushing stream, traffic going by, something nice being said to you, or bad news - is first perceived through your ear, transmitted to your brain, interpreted in conjunction with what psychologists call "stored knowledge" (the resident thoughts that I mentioned a moment ago) and, as a result, made sense of. Same with each sight, each smell, each taste, each tactile feeling. The fact is, however, that so-called normal people don't make sense of what is being perceived - they make nonsense of it! Because, rather than paying attention to their senses, they let their stored knowledge make up their minds for them. And for normal adults, that stored knowledge is way out of date - and the older you get the more out of date and irrelevant to the present moment it becomes.
Over seventy years of research in the field of psychology has found that adults simply don't know how to pay enough attention to their five senses - and even when they do decide to pay attention to something, their internal programming will even override that decision. The normal adult cannot pay attention to the actual reality of the moment as experienced by them, for real, through their five senses. However, it is these senses - and only these five senses that provide us with the real here and now information. Instead of paying attention to this real data, years of automatic behaviour drowns out our sensory perception and creates a half-life of automatic living. In other words, normal people are, at best, sleepwalking their way through life, at worst, as good as dead.
From my own work's perspective, I find plenty of people who are completely unable to pay attention for even five minutes - on occasions when I've asked a group to simply sit still for five minutes, the mere suggestion of sitting still resulted in some people almost hitting the ceiling such was their inability to simply experience and appreciate the moment in a calm, still and focused fashion. We all need to sit still for a few minutes each day. This should be an "exercise" in, first of all, tuning in your attention to focus just on what you are seeing, feeling, hearing, smelling and tasting and then, thereafter, fine-tuning your mind to pay attention to what is actually going on before your very eyes. In undertaking such "mental fitness training", you should not analyze what's going on, don't add your own interpretation. If you do, you will be using your "stored knowledge", the crap we've already mentioned. In the process, you will simply have done all over again what you have been doing all of your adult life - interpreting reality instead of experiencing it for what it really is. Instead of doing this, you should find somewhere where you will not be disturbed and simply sit down, simply observing what you are experiencing. In reconnecting with the real world, you will find that it is, in fact, full of excitement and opportunity - opportunity which has always been before your very eyes but you were too blinded by your own misconceptions to see what was going on.
Real life is lived in reality. Real, effortless success simply flows in reality - it is only your resident thought processes that have distanced you from the effortless success that you can experience in reality. Open your mind, come to your senses, live your dream.
Copyright (c) 2010 Willie Horton
About The Author
Willie Horton has been a Personal Development expert since 1996 - working with top leaders in major organizations. An Irish ex-accountant, ex-banker, published author and keynote speaker, he travels the world, from his home in the French Alps, enabling people "live the dream". All his work - including his acclaimed Personal Development Workshop - is now online at http://www.gurdy.net
The author invites you to visit: http://www.gurdy.net
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_7841.shtml
Saturday, 21 February 2015
Saturday, 14 February 2015
5 Easy Steps To Finding Passion In Your Life And Career
By Dorothy Tannahill-Moran
Many people, particularly as they accumulate years of work experience, find they have a growing desire to put passion into their life and career. My observation about why this takes place is that as we grow in life experiences a lot of the excitement or "newness" diminishes. We simply have been there and done that enough that our threshold for what will rock our world continues to go up. It's increasingly harder to get that same level of excitement.
As we recognize that this element of excitement is missing, it can trigger us to go in search of something we can feel passionate about. We often look around us seeing others in careers that bring them incredible joy, something they are passionate about, and we want that same feeling for ourselves. We remember how it feels to have something in our lives that consumes our thoughts and makes the hours flow quickly. The biggest issue with going in search of your life and career passion is: HOW do you discover your passion?
All too many people think that your passion just comes to you like a thunderbolt from the heavens. In other words, we think for some people it just magically appears. This leaves the rest of us to feel unlucky because the magic hasn't happened. Finding your passion is something we all have access to. It might seem magical, but it is simply a process, like most things in our lives, and requires turning off the TV and taking some actions.
Here are 5 simple steps that will lead you to your passion:
1- Start first with what you already know you're interested in. Sit down and write out a list of all the things you have some interest in trying, but never have. Your whole process requires self honesty and it starts here. Don't list anything just because of someone else's interests. If you aren't genuinely interested, don't list it. It's also important to create this master list as it will live on perhaps for the rest of your life. As you try things on the list, you may eliminate some and add others.
a. You must realize that this is a discovery and experimentation process. You need to proceed with a certain playfulness and curiosity. You are going to try these things, probably for the first time, and you have no idea how they will turn out. In fact, you need to assume that while you may enjoy many of those activities, most of them will not turn into a passion.
b. Because most of the activities you try will not turn into a true passion, you need to develop self-patience with no self-judgment. Have fun with the process. Be open to new discoveries. You will find your passion, just be patient and trust the process. Don't criticize yourself if it doesn't happen immediately.
c. You do not need to limit your list to only things that seem related to a job. When you find a passion, you may well be able to turn it into an income opportunity, if you choose.
2- Make goals. You can't just make a list. You have to take action. Like all great goals, they have the characteristics of 1) being specific 2) having a time for completion 3) and are actionable. A bad example: I will solve world hunger. This goal is missing all of the key characteristics. A good example: I will enroll and take glass blowing classes starting no later than Sept 2010. Setting goals for your drive to passion means you will hold yourself accountable for making something happen in your life.
3- Get curious and go in search. Your biggest asset on your quest to find passion is to get curious about your environment and what other people are doing. Ask questions. Let one thing create a thread to others that you continue to follow. There are an unlimited number of things out there that people are doing and others who are inventing more things to do. Surround yourself with people who are passionate about the work they are doing or with people on a quest like you. Having others in your life, who are excited about life, will drive your process forward. It's great to have daily doses of inspiration.
4- Record your results. To get the most out of your exploration, you need to spend time in introspection. You need to think about each action you take and your reactions to them. This will help you understand what works for you and what doesn't. What you learn about yourself as you move forward will help inform your next steps. Consider keeping a discovery journal. If you do best debriefing your actions by talking, consider asking a person who is also going through a quest for passion to help you. You can ask each other deep probing questions and deepen the learning.
5- Repeat. Don't try something just once. Give any new endeavor a chance to capture your interest by getting past the new start up roughness. Continue to move through the steps exploring, experimenting and learning until you discover the passion you are looking for.
Discovering something you can feel passionate about will greatly enhance your life and career. It is not magical nor is it difficult, but it does take effort. As long as you stay open about the possibilities and continually entertain new things, you will find the passion you want in your life.
About The Author
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Saturday, 7 February 2015
Burying Your Head in the Sand?
By Susan Russo
"Everytime I close the door on reality, it comes in through the windows." Jennifer Yane
When you choose to avoid dealing with life's circumstances regardless of what it is, it ultimately either silently eats you alive or hurts the other people who need you to deal with it.
Whether it's your own issues such as unhealthy relationships, procrastination, weight lying to yourself, destructive habit, or whatever the case may be or if it's the people we are the closest to and we don't want to deal with their pain and all of the emotions that go along with it, burying your head won't help anyone or anything.
Children for instance don't have a voice when they are exposed to abuse, by you not dealing with your own ugly affairs you impose upon these kids unwanted emotions and feelings that isn't only unfair to them but it puts them in a miserable situation that they really don't deserve or have anything to do with. They are the victims.
Or if you have co-workers, friends or family members who are hurting but you are too busy to get involved, that 5 minutes you may lend a hand or an ear may be all they need to feel better.
There's no question that dealing with confrontations or any of life's adversities isn't any fun, but sweeping them under the rug can make you fat, sad, depressed, delusional, out of touch or just plain empty. This escape mechanism may work in the short run, i.e. avoiding the immediate pain, but in the end it all catches up to you in one way or another.
Or course there is the opposite of avoidance and that is the consummate dweller. The person who thrives on worry and can't let go of thinking about the situation. They consume themselves with what if, if only, should I, could I, what if I do and what if I don't. These people don't bury their head in the sand they bury it in fear and paralyze themselves.
So how do you dig yourself out of the sand, meet somewhere in the middle and make it okay to deal with the realities of life?
First, you have to be honest about life and know that it isn't always going to be easy street for yourself or those you love. Then you have to deal with it. Period. Know that avoiding it doesn't make it go away and eventually you will have to deal with it anyway.
By confronting problems whether they are yours or not brings relief and some clarity to the situation. It helps you move off of square one and helps to get you or others unstuck from believing their is no solution.
And, many times not only does it bring about significant changes it ultimately helps to eliminate the issues and then you don't have anything to bury your head in the sand about anymore!!
So the next time you want to run and hide when your own garbage starts to wreak or someone else is looking for direction, embrace it head on, say your piece and then let it go. Just deal with it!
That little act of dealing with what ails you or others will not only help you or them but it will release you from the stress that goes along with avoidance. And, there is nothing quite like facing reality, letting it go and moving on.
About The Author
To find out more about how to stop wasting your time and begin living your best life now, go to: http://www.susan-russo.com Susan's work has inspired people from all over the world to take back their power! Learn the secrets in Susan's new book: "The 7 Keys to Unlock the Power Within You" found at=>
http://www.susanrusso.com
The author invites you to visit: http://www.whystay.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_7958.shtml
"Everytime I close the door on reality, it comes in through the windows." Jennifer Yane
When you choose to avoid dealing with life's circumstances regardless of what it is, it ultimately either silently eats you alive or hurts the other people who need you to deal with it.
Whether it's your own issues such as unhealthy relationships, procrastination, weight lying to yourself, destructive habit, or whatever the case may be or if it's the people we are the closest to and we don't want to deal with their pain and all of the emotions that go along with it, burying your head won't help anyone or anything.
Children for instance don't have a voice when they are exposed to abuse, by you not dealing with your own ugly affairs you impose upon these kids unwanted emotions and feelings that isn't only unfair to them but it puts them in a miserable situation that they really don't deserve or have anything to do with. They are the victims.
Or if you have co-workers, friends or family members who are hurting but you are too busy to get involved, that 5 minutes you may lend a hand or an ear may be all they need to feel better.
There's no question that dealing with confrontations or any of life's adversities isn't any fun, but sweeping them under the rug can make you fat, sad, depressed, delusional, out of touch or just plain empty. This escape mechanism may work in the short run, i.e. avoiding the immediate pain, but in the end it all catches up to you in one way or another.
Or course there is the opposite of avoidance and that is the consummate dweller. The person who thrives on worry and can't let go of thinking about the situation. They consume themselves with what if, if only, should I, could I, what if I do and what if I don't. These people don't bury their head in the sand they bury it in fear and paralyze themselves.
So how do you dig yourself out of the sand, meet somewhere in the middle and make it okay to deal with the realities of life?
First, you have to be honest about life and know that it isn't always going to be easy street for yourself or those you love. Then you have to deal with it. Period. Know that avoiding it doesn't make it go away and eventually you will have to deal with it anyway.
By confronting problems whether they are yours or not brings relief and some clarity to the situation. It helps you move off of square one and helps to get you or others unstuck from believing their is no solution.
And, many times not only does it bring about significant changes it ultimately helps to eliminate the issues and then you don't have anything to bury your head in the sand about anymore!!
So the next time you want to run and hide when your own garbage starts to wreak or someone else is looking for direction, embrace it head on, say your piece and then let it go. Just deal with it!
That little act of dealing with what ails you or others will not only help you or them but it will release you from the stress that goes along with avoidance. And, there is nothing quite like facing reality, letting it go and moving on.
About The Author
To find out more about how to stop wasting your time and begin living your best life now, go to: http://www.susan-russo.com Susan's work has inspired people from all over the world to take back their power! Learn the secrets in Susan's new book: "The 7 Keys to Unlock the Power Within You" found at=>
http://www.susanrusso.com
The author invites you to visit: http://www.whystay.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_7958.shtml
Saturday, 31 January 2015
Top 10 Tips For Joy
By Michelle Mayur
It is easy to get caught up in our materialistic society that equates feeling joyful and happy in life with acquiring material possessions. If we just have that new home, new car, new dress, etc, then we will be filled with joy...... or will we? When we do manage to purchase any of these material things, why is the associated joy and happiness usually so short-lived?
The answer is simple - the Heart and Soul are still lacking in Joy, only the mind or ego has temporary satisfaction until it needs the next 'fix' of obtaining more material possessions.
My work and passion is to help you awaken to more Heart and Soul Joy in your life, in simple, free or low-cost ways to make your Heart and Soul sing and feel truly alive.
My favourite Top 10 Tips to make your Heart and Soul sing with Joy:
1. An Attitude of Gratitude and Appreciation - Start and end every day by making a list in your mind or on in a journal of at least 5 things you are grateful for, no matter how small. It may be something as simple as your soft, warm bed or the sounds of birds outside. As you regularly focus more on all the good things you already have in your life your vibration will raise, allowing you to feel more joy in your daily life.
2. Spend Time in Nature - Go to a beautiful place in nature, such as a local park, garden, natural bushland, mountains, lake or seaside. Tune in to the energies of the trees, birds, native animals and water. Enjoy watching a sunrise or sunset in quiet contemplation or with friends. Standing in sunshine, feel energetic dross being transmuted from your energy field. Allow the energy of tall trees to drain any negativity from you.
3. Watch Children or Animals at Play - Find yourself totally involved in the moment as you watch the spontaneity and free flowing of emotions of children or animals at play. To distance yourself from any worrying thoughts, cuddle, play with or watch a happy animal. Their curiosity and delight engross you instantly.
4. Daily Laughter - Laughing exercises more muscles in the face than anything else and feels so good you just want to do more. Watch or read something funny on a regular basis to uplift your mood. A good belly laugh is a great way of relieving pent-up stress. Practise laughing for 10 minutes a day. Even if you don't think you have anything funny in your life, just watch yourself trying to laugh and you will find the ridiculousness of your attempt will trigger you into genuine laughter. Consider joining a local laughter group.
5. Fun Times with Friends - Schedule in regular time to reconnect with your social network, whether it be by phone, email, or going out together. Good friends can be our free therapist, our laughter buddy and a chance to just relax and switch off from daily challenges.
6. Reward Yourself for Achieving Goals - Each time you reach a pre-determined goal, no matter how small, reward yourself with a special treat that nourishes mind and body - perhaps a movie, going out to dinner, catching up with a friend, gulit-free downtime or visiting a special place. For the effort you have given out you are now allowing yourself to receive back, which is a powerful act of self-love.
7. Let Your Inner Child Play - It is too easy to believe that as an adult you must always be serious, disciplined and responsible. How boring! What does your inner child, that playful part inside you, want to do to have some harmless fun? Is it swinging in the park, dancing, watching cartoons, playing a game, eating a favourite food from childhood? Relax, let you inner child out to play on a regular basis and feel the joy in your life.
8. Forgive Yourself and Others - The longer you hold onto unforgiveness of those you perceive have wronged you, the more the corrosive effect it has on your mind and physical body. You have already been hurt by someone else, do you now want to compound that hurt by damaging yourself emotionally or physically? Chances are the person who has wronged you has forgotten all about it, so the only person you are hurting by holding onto unforgiveness is yourself. Practice forgiveness on a regular basis, knowing that the gift of forgiveness is for yourself. Forgive yourself for all the hurt and other emotions you have been holding onto that have been damaging you and then visualise bundling it all up and letting it go.
9. Eat Nourishing Food as close to its natural state as possible - What we eat influences our moods and behaviours far more than most of us realise. For instance, many people feel heavy, lethargic and energetically-flat after eating wheat-based foods. Eating chocolate can give you a quick high, which is quickly replaced by mild depression, causing you to seek another chocolate 'fix'. The conglomeration of additives, artificial colours, flavourings and preservatives found in the majority of packaged foods challenge our good mood and our immune system. Endeavour to eat fresh food and prepare meals yourself with basic, recognizable ingredients, organic if possible.
10. Try Something New - What have you had in the back of your mind that you would like to try - maybe painting, salsa dancing, enrolling in a personal development course or anything else that catches your interest? Just do it, let your creative juices flow and feel your spirits soar!
About The Author
Michelle Mayur, a conscious entrepreneur specialising in "Heal the Healer". Tools and info for developing Wellness Professionals personally and in business.
The author invites you to visit: http://www.heal-the-healer.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_7923.shtml
It is easy to get caught up in our materialistic society that equates feeling joyful and happy in life with acquiring material possessions. If we just have that new home, new car, new dress, etc, then we will be filled with joy...... or will we? When we do manage to purchase any of these material things, why is the associated joy and happiness usually so short-lived?
The answer is simple - the Heart and Soul are still lacking in Joy, only the mind or ego has temporary satisfaction until it needs the next 'fix' of obtaining more material possessions.
My work and passion is to help you awaken to more Heart and Soul Joy in your life, in simple, free or low-cost ways to make your Heart and Soul sing and feel truly alive.
My favourite Top 10 Tips to make your Heart and Soul sing with Joy:
1. An Attitude of Gratitude and Appreciation - Start and end every day by making a list in your mind or on in a journal of at least 5 things you are grateful for, no matter how small. It may be something as simple as your soft, warm bed or the sounds of birds outside. As you regularly focus more on all the good things you already have in your life your vibration will raise, allowing you to feel more joy in your daily life.
2. Spend Time in Nature - Go to a beautiful place in nature, such as a local park, garden, natural bushland, mountains, lake or seaside. Tune in to the energies of the trees, birds, native animals and water. Enjoy watching a sunrise or sunset in quiet contemplation or with friends. Standing in sunshine, feel energetic dross being transmuted from your energy field. Allow the energy of tall trees to drain any negativity from you.
3. Watch Children or Animals at Play - Find yourself totally involved in the moment as you watch the spontaneity and free flowing of emotions of children or animals at play. To distance yourself from any worrying thoughts, cuddle, play with or watch a happy animal. Their curiosity and delight engross you instantly.
4. Daily Laughter - Laughing exercises more muscles in the face than anything else and feels so good you just want to do more. Watch or read something funny on a regular basis to uplift your mood. A good belly laugh is a great way of relieving pent-up stress. Practise laughing for 10 minutes a day. Even if you don't think you have anything funny in your life, just watch yourself trying to laugh and you will find the ridiculousness of your attempt will trigger you into genuine laughter. Consider joining a local laughter group.
5. Fun Times with Friends - Schedule in regular time to reconnect with your social network, whether it be by phone, email, or going out together. Good friends can be our free therapist, our laughter buddy and a chance to just relax and switch off from daily challenges.
6. Reward Yourself for Achieving Goals - Each time you reach a pre-determined goal, no matter how small, reward yourself with a special treat that nourishes mind and body - perhaps a movie, going out to dinner, catching up with a friend, gulit-free downtime or visiting a special place. For the effort you have given out you are now allowing yourself to receive back, which is a powerful act of self-love.
7. Let Your Inner Child Play - It is too easy to believe that as an adult you must always be serious, disciplined and responsible. How boring! What does your inner child, that playful part inside you, want to do to have some harmless fun? Is it swinging in the park, dancing, watching cartoons, playing a game, eating a favourite food from childhood? Relax, let you inner child out to play on a regular basis and feel the joy in your life.
8. Forgive Yourself and Others - The longer you hold onto unforgiveness of those you perceive have wronged you, the more the corrosive effect it has on your mind and physical body. You have already been hurt by someone else, do you now want to compound that hurt by damaging yourself emotionally or physically? Chances are the person who has wronged you has forgotten all about it, so the only person you are hurting by holding onto unforgiveness is yourself. Practice forgiveness on a regular basis, knowing that the gift of forgiveness is for yourself. Forgive yourself for all the hurt and other emotions you have been holding onto that have been damaging you and then visualise bundling it all up and letting it go.
9. Eat Nourishing Food as close to its natural state as possible - What we eat influences our moods and behaviours far more than most of us realise. For instance, many people feel heavy, lethargic and energetically-flat after eating wheat-based foods. Eating chocolate can give you a quick high, which is quickly replaced by mild depression, causing you to seek another chocolate 'fix'. The conglomeration of additives, artificial colours, flavourings and preservatives found in the majority of packaged foods challenge our good mood and our immune system. Endeavour to eat fresh food and prepare meals yourself with basic, recognizable ingredients, organic if possible.
10. Try Something New - What have you had in the back of your mind that you would like to try - maybe painting, salsa dancing, enrolling in a personal development course or anything else that catches your interest? Just do it, let your creative juices flow and feel your spirits soar!
About The Author
Michelle Mayur, a conscious entrepreneur specialising in "Heal the Healer". Tools and info for developing Wellness Professionals personally and in business.
The author invites you to visit: http://www.heal-the-healer.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_7923.shtml
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