By Marsha Egan
Almost every day, I hear someone remark how fast the world is changing - and it's true. It's almost unrecognizable from our parents' days, and even from the world we grew up in.
We live in a world far more touched by a constant state of change than any generation which has gone before us. Global communication and sharing of ideas combined with ever-increasing technology has given us a world that moves incredibly fast. Add to that the increasing world population, increased global competition and the pressure we all have on profits, and we have a world with its foot stuck firmly on the gas pedal!
Mind you, it's almost certain that the current break-neck speed at which our world turns is the slowest rate of change we'll ever have; things can only speed up even further from here - pretty scary, isn't it?
Just to reinforce this, the compounding reality is that there's nothing any of us can do to slow the rate of change - whether we like it or not, the roller coaster is here to stay!
The more change we have to deal with, the greater is the potential for us to feel stressed out. People are, by their very nature, resistant to change. We have our routines and our idiosyncrasies, and we hate to be taken outside our 'comfort zones'. How many times have you heard a colleague say 'well, we've always done it that way', or refer to how something worked 'last time'? When we have to mix things up a little, people get uncomfortable, so it's understandable that this can create stress.
Even changes that improve people's lives can create stress. For example, when someone gets a promotion and has to move to a new city, they not only have to deal with all of the changes to their new responsibilities at work, with a new boss, new relationships and new knowledge; their family must also deal with the changes involved in moving to a new neighborhood -- new schools, new neighbors, new places to shop, new doctor, the list can be endless. While the overall result is a positive change, all these things almost certainly add pressure to a person's home and professional life.
Given the fact that we can't slow the rate of change down, what CAN we do?
The answer lies in our own ability to change from within - the way we handle or react to change. If you can't change what we don't like, there are only two things you can do. You can elect not to be part of the thing you don't like (which in this case simply isn't going to work!), or you change your attitude towards it.
Here are some ideas for how you might accomplish this:
- Find the benefits of the changes you are experiencing. Think of ways you can use those changes to make your life easier. Try to avoid fighting the change, and find ways to make it work for you. It's much easier to 'go with the flow'!
- Focus on learning to work with the change. The more you focus on 'getting a handle on it', the faster it'll be second-nature.
- Think things through. When confronted with change, look at it as if it's a chess game, when you need to think through the several moves in advance rather than just one. A lot of the time we create a stressful situation by making a judgement call without considering what the consequences will be.
- Keep open mind, and a positive attitude. Finding fault with a new idea or dismissing it is easy, but the better our attitude to it, the less of a chore it will be. As an added bonus, staying positive will have a positive effect on your career and relationships - no-one wants to be around a negative person!
- Recognize that change can be stressful. Accept that fact and give yourself permission to feel uncomfortable at the beginning.
- Helping those around you get used to the change will give you a better understanding of the change itself, will minimize the stressful side of it, as well as impacting well on your relationships.
"I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul." is a quote from the classic poem 'Invictus', although most people remember it more as a line from the film 'Casablanca'. Take ownership of your own attitude. You'll only feel stressed if you allow stress into your life. By controlling your attitude, and your emotional responses, you will give yourself the best chance of getting the most out of change, and minimizing your stres's levels.
Sure, change can hurt. But it is here to stay. The people and organizations who seek out the positives and embrace change will be the ones who see the most benefit from it. Will you be one of them?
About The Author
Marsha Egan, CPCU, PCC is CEO of The Egan Group, Inc., a Reading, PA based professional coaching firm. She is a certified workplace productivity coach and professional speaker, specializing in leadership development and can be reached at marsha@marshaegan.com or visit http://www.InboxDetox.com.
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Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9166.shtml
Thursday, 8 May 2014
Tuesday, 6 May 2014
Dealing With Loneliness
By Susan Russo
"Loneliness is the poverty of self." - May Sarton
One of the toughest hurdles to overcome when a relationship ends is dealing with the gnawing loneliness that seems to take over your life and the fear that it will never end. These feelings are heightened when you are alone and it feels as if you are being haunted by them. Losing someone we love is one of the most difficult situations to deal with but, you can and you will get beyond this even though you may believe you won't.
There are several things you can do to help get beyond the sadness and pain of a break up or divorce. First, understand that grieving is a process and one that we all go through even though we wish we didn't have to. There are stages of grieving and the initial stages are the hardest to deal with because the pain is so raw. And worse yet, you may even believe this will destroy you, but rest assured you will survive.
Day by day you will become stronger and the pain will begin to subside. These heart wrenching feelings will pass and you will begin to feel like your old self again. But you have to allow yourself the time to heal. Imagine if you broke your leg. You may not want to deal with the whole healing process but there is no way out of it. Your leg will not heal overnight. It will take time and it will also help when you make smart choices so you don't lengthen the process.
The main thing you want to do is keep yourself as busy as possible. Surround yourself with family and friends; they will be your lifeline in your healing. You need them to lean on, to talk to and to walk you through this; and those who really love you won't mind at all.
Do the things you love that you stopped doing when you were in the relationship. So often people meet someone and they abandon their old hobbies and habits. Go out and recapture your interests or learn how to do something you've always wanted to but never made the time for. Go to the movies, go on a vacation, go and volunteer, go and exercise. Just go, go, go even when you feel like you don't want to do a thing.
Exercise is a big healing factor. It is one of the most beneficial things you can do to help you jump over this hurdle. The benefits of exercise far exceed almost any other good thing you can do for yourself. It releases hormones that will actually elevate your mood, plus a plethora of other incredible reasons from a health standpoint and a self esteem standpoint as well.
When you find yourself dwelling on the past and all of the whys, how did this happen, I will never meet anyone again, I can't get over this, I miss them so much and all of the other obsessively depressing thoughts, you have to begin to tell yourself the truth. You will get over this, you will have a good life again, you will laugh and love again and you will do this when you begin to put the past behind you, accept what has happened and start looking forward.
The bottom line is that loneliness is a side effect of ending a relationship. When you are used to sharing your life with someone on all levels and they are suddenly gone, how do you think you are going to feel? Of course you will feel devastated that's normal. But in time those feelings will be replaced with the realization that life really does go on and it will be a great life when you start to believe it will be.
About The Author
Susan Russo has written one of the top breakup books on the market. Her direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who is stuck in the letting go process. How would you like to move beyond the pain and start to feel like a human again? Find out how to by starting with Susan's FREE mini report on how to heal your pain at http://www.whystay.com
The author invites you to visit: http://www.whystay.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9168.shtml
"Loneliness is the poverty of self." - May Sarton
One of the toughest hurdles to overcome when a relationship ends is dealing with the gnawing loneliness that seems to take over your life and the fear that it will never end. These feelings are heightened when you are alone and it feels as if you are being haunted by them. Losing someone we love is one of the most difficult situations to deal with but, you can and you will get beyond this even though you may believe you won't.
There are several things you can do to help get beyond the sadness and pain of a break up or divorce. First, understand that grieving is a process and one that we all go through even though we wish we didn't have to. There are stages of grieving and the initial stages are the hardest to deal with because the pain is so raw. And worse yet, you may even believe this will destroy you, but rest assured you will survive.
Day by day you will become stronger and the pain will begin to subside. These heart wrenching feelings will pass and you will begin to feel like your old self again. But you have to allow yourself the time to heal. Imagine if you broke your leg. You may not want to deal with the whole healing process but there is no way out of it. Your leg will not heal overnight. It will take time and it will also help when you make smart choices so you don't lengthen the process.
The main thing you want to do is keep yourself as busy as possible. Surround yourself with family and friends; they will be your lifeline in your healing. You need them to lean on, to talk to and to walk you through this; and those who really love you won't mind at all.
Do the things you love that you stopped doing when you were in the relationship. So often people meet someone and they abandon their old hobbies and habits. Go out and recapture your interests or learn how to do something you've always wanted to but never made the time for. Go to the movies, go on a vacation, go and volunteer, go and exercise. Just go, go, go even when you feel like you don't want to do a thing.
Exercise is a big healing factor. It is one of the most beneficial things you can do to help you jump over this hurdle. The benefits of exercise far exceed almost any other good thing you can do for yourself. It releases hormones that will actually elevate your mood, plus a plethora of other incredible reasons from a health standpoint and a self esteem standpoint as well.
When you find yourself dwelling on the past and all of the whys, how did this happen, I will never meet anyone again, I can't get over this, I miss them so much and all of the other obsessively depressing thoughts, you have to begin to tell yourself the truth. You will get over this, you will have a good life again, you will laugh and love again and you will do this when you begin to put the past behind you, accept what has happened and start looking forward.
The bottom line is that loneliness is a side effect of ending a relationship. When you are used to sharing your life with someone on all levels and they are suddenly gone, how do you think you are going to feel? Of course you will feel devastated that's normal. But in time those feelings will be replaced with the realization that life really does go on and it will be a great life when you start to believe it will be.
About The Author
Susan Russo has written one of the top breakup books on the market. Her direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who is stuck in the letting go process. How would you like to move beyond the pain and start to feel like a human again? Find out how to by starting with Susan's FREE mini report on how to heal your pain at http://www.whystay.com
The author invites you to visit: http://www.whystay.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9168.shtml
Saturday, 3 May 2014
Give Your Memory a Boost With a Walk Down Memory Lane
By Kevin P. Green
With all of the different memory techniques out there, it's no wonder people who are trying to beef up their recall abilities feel completely overwhelmed. Naturally it's difficult to try to learn and incorporate multiple methods into a streamlined system that works well for you. One of the best pieces of advice is to find one technique, use it frequently, and master it. Just like any tool, a technique for memorizing must be practiced before you can expect to become proficient with it.
One of the most successful memory enhancement techniques is "The Journey Method" which is extremely powerful yet very easy to follow. The basic principle of this process is to associate information with places along a route that you are familiar with. The idea is for objects that you encounter on a regular basis becomes pegs to hang the facts you are trying to memorize on. For example, if you need to remember the names and faces of the board members you have to present to later in the day, picture each one of them at different points along your drive to work. Have each person tell you their name and interact in a silly way with the object. The crazier the better and the more apt the details will be to stick.
Your journey doesn't even have to be through a real place. You can use a city from an online video game. Many people use the house that they grew up in, even though they moved away years ago. The location doesn't really matter. The most important thing is that there are identifiable landmarks which are extremely familiar to you.
There are several distinct benefits to using the Journey Method.
By associating details with different landmarks, it's quite easy for you to remember this information whenever you want. You can store a large amount of unrelated data with this method since each fact gets associated with its own object, and you can add as many objects from your setting as you need.
This technique also has the added benefit of being non-linear. In other words, you are not obligated to retrieve facts in a linear fashion, either from beginning to end, or vice versa. Since you have all of your information tied to specific objects, you can go right to the landmark you need and recall that particular detail.
One point of debate regarding this method is whether to use a new route and landmarks each time you want to remember a new set of data, or should you just go back and overwrite the previous details. Researchers are mixed on this topic, and there are arguments for both sides. Try to use the same path multiple times, but consider changing some of the conditions, like the lighting, time of day, weather, billboards, or other details which can make that study session unique.
There is good reason that this memorizing technique has been used for centuries. The Journey Method is both easy to learn and reliable and makes remembering details a snap.
About The Author
Kevin Green has studied memory and brain function for years and has created a resource to help people enhance their recall abilities at http://www.LearnToImproveYourMemory.com. Sign up to receive a free 10 part mini-course at http://www.learntoimproveyourmemory.com/memorizing-techniques that covers memorizing techniques, increasing concentration, foods that improve memory, memory supplements, and more.
The author invites you to visit: http://www.learntoimproveyourmemory.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9238.shtml
With all of the different memory techniques out there, it's no wonder people who are trying to beef up their recall abilities feel completely overwhelmed. Naturally it's difficult to try to learn and incorporate multiple methods into a streamlined system that works well for you. One of the best pieces of advice is to find one technique, use it frequently, and master it. Just like any tool, a technique for memorizing must be practiced before you can expect to become proficient with it.
One of the most successful memory enhancement techniques is "The Journey Method" which is extremely powerful yet very easy to follow. The basic principle of this process is to associate information with places along a route that you are familiar with. The idea is for objects that you encounter on a regular basis becomes pegs to hang the facts you are trying to memorize on. For example, if you need to remember the names and faces of the board members you have to present to later in the day, picture each one of them at different points along your drive to work. Have each person tell you their name and interact in a silly way with the object. The crazier the better and the more apt the details will be to stick.
Your journey doesn't even have to be through a real place. You can use a city from an online video game. Many people use the house that they grew up in, even though they moved away years ago. The location doesn't really matter. The most important thing is that there are identifiable landmarks which are extremely familiar to you.
There are several distinct benefits to using the Journey Method.
By associating details with different landmarks, it's quite easy for you to remember this information whenever you want. You can store a large amount of unrelated data with this method since each fact gets associated with its own object, and you can add as many objects from your setting as you need.
This technique also has the added benefit of being non-linear. In other words, you are not obligated to retrieve facts in a linear fashion, either from beginning to end, or vice versa. Since you have all of your information tied to specific objects, you can go right to the landmark you need and recall that particular detail.
One point of debate regarding this method is whether to use a new route and landmarks each time you want to remember a new set of data, or should you just go back and overwrite the previous details. Researchers are mixed on this topic, and there are arguments for both sides. Try to use the same path multiple times, but consider changing some of the conditions, like the lighting, time of day, weather, billboards, or other details which can make that study session unique.
There is good reason that this memorizing technique has been used for centuries. The Journey Method is both easy to learn and reliable and makes remembering details a snap.
About The Author
Kevin Green has studied memory and brain function for years and has created a resource to help people enhance their recall abilities at http://www.LearnToImproveYourMemory.com. Sign up to receive a free 10 part mini-course at http://www.learntoimproveyourmemory.com/memorizing-techniques that covers memorizing techniques, increasing concentration, foods that improve memory, memory supplements, and more.
The author invites you to visit: http://www.learntoimproveyourmemory.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9238.shtml
Thursday, 1 May 2014
Personal Development Plans: Your Crucial Steps To Success
By Nicolas Baron
People who are successful in their lives no matter who they are will tell you that they got there by working hard, planning and taking hold of opportunities with both hands.
All of this stems from a deep seated desire within them to become the leaders in their chosen field which has driven them through to where they are today. From some this desire started young where as for others it came later on in life, but regardless at what age the fires were lit a plan is always needed to be able to get from where you begin and your present circumstances to the end result.
By planning you are able to create a time line coupled with a financial plan to overall create a personal development plan that will ensure success. Personal development plans have long been the tools of choice that the rich and successful have used, you may have even used a similar version already in your life but have known it under a different name; a study timetable.
When you are in College, University or even if you are taking a training course through work you will have had at some point made a plan of your studying hours so that you can maximize your chances of passing the end examination(s).
For those who have created one before you will remember taking the time to write down ad plan your every move over that period so that you can organize your studying to improve your potential.
For those that have not devised these types of plans before the principle is simple just in an order that is slightly different to a study plan when creating a personal development plan:
1. Outline your overall goal.
2. Write down the necessary steps you will need to take to achieve your goal.
3. Figure out a realistic timeline to achieve all this
4. Define the Financials involved in making it all happen Outlining your ultimate goal is the first step as this helps you to take the dream that you have and turn it into a viable reality.
Then by figuring out by using the internet or manual research how and what you need to get there helps you to build the time line and sets you mini goals or targets that need to be accomplished and mastered bring you closer to the ultimate goal.
Creating the timeline is the next important step as it allows you to be realistic about your aims and what they involve and shows you how much effort you are going to need to put in to achieving your desired outcome.
One of the last steps is to organize the financial side of your plan, this shows you if there are any gaps or lump sums that may need you to save up for, if you are unable to save or have the full amount in time your contingency plans, such as borrowing or even a second job to increase your income.
The final stage is to hang the personal development plan somewhere you can see it, that way you are reminded everyday of why you are doing what you are, to check your progress and make any adjustments you may need to include or even remove any steps if the opportunities arise to spring you forward in anyway.
About The Author
If you enjoyed this article by Nicolas Baron, please visit http://www.thesecretvideos.tv where you can download your complimentary 5 Day e-Course and copy of Think and Grow Rich. A book that has changed the lives of thirty million people across the globe. Why wait to be the next one to make your life a masterpiece with this blueprint to success? It's entirely up to you...
The author invites you to visit: http://www.find-your-purpose-now.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9246.shtml
People who are successful in their lives no matter who they are will tell you that they got there by working hard, planning and taking hold of opportunities with both hands.
All of this stems from a deep seated desire within them to become the leaders in their chosen field which has driven them through to where they are today. From some this desire started young where as for others it came later on in life, but regardless at what age the fires were lit a plan is always needed to be able to get from where you begin and your present circumstances to the end result.
By planning you are able to create a time line coupled with a financial plan to overall create a personal development plan that will ensure success. Personal development plans have long been the tools of choice that the rich and successful have used, you may have even used a similar version already in your life but have known it under a different name; a study timetable.
When you are in College, University or even if you are taking a training course through work you will have had at some point made a plan of your studying hours so that you can maximize your chances of passing the end examination(s).
For those who have created one before you will remember taking the time to write down ad plan your every move over that period so that you can organize your studying to improve your potential.
For those that have not devised these types of plans before the principle is simple just in an order that is slightly different to a study plan when creating a personal development plan:
1. Outline your overall goal.
2. Write down the necessary steps you will need to take to achieve your goal.
3. Figure out a realistic timeline to achieve all this
4. Define the Financials involved in making it all happen Outlining your ultimate goal is the first step as this helps you to take the dream that you have and turn it into a viable reality.
Then by figuring out by using the internet or manual research how and what you need to get there helps you to build the time line and sets you mini goals or targets that need to be accomplished and mastered bring you closer to the ultimate goal.
Creating the timeline is the next important step as it allows you to be realistic about your aims and what they involve and shows you how much effort you are going to need to put in to achieving your desired outcome.
One of the last steps is to organize the financial side of your plan, this shows you if there are any gaps or lump sums that may need you to save up for, if you are unable to save or have the full amount in time your contingency plans, such as borrowing or even a second job to increase your income.
The final stage is to hang the personal development plan somewhere you can see it, that way you are reminded everyday of why you are doing what you are, to check your progress and make any adjustments you may need to include or even remove any steps if the opportunities arise to spring you forward in anyway.
About The Author
If you enjoyed this article by Nicolas Baron, please visit http://www.thesecretvideos.tv where you can download your complimentary 5 Day e-Course and copy of Think and Grow Rich. A book that has changed the lives of thirty million people across the globe. Why wait to be the next one to make your life a masterpiece with this blueprint to success? It's entirely up to you...
The author invites you to visit: http://www.find-your-purpose-now.com
Article Source:http://www.articlecity.com/articles/self_improvement_and_motivation/article_9246.shtml
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